Your Attitude Amulet
by Anthony Fernando
Every morning you wake up, climb out of bed and get ready for the day ahead. After having a shower, getting dressed and doing your hair, you most probably stand in front of the mirror and do a quick final check before you walk out the door to face the world.
It is in that moment when you are looking at yourself in the mirror each morning that you can add a simple two-minute process that can change your life.
How To Improve Your Attitude
Imagine for a moment, that next to your mirror hangs a heart shaped amulet.
This amulet is an Attitude Amulet.
Your Attitude Amulet has two faces. It has a golden face, which represents a positive attitude, and a dark face, which represents a negative attitude.
Each morning you place your Attitude Amulet around your neck and decide which face of the amulet you are going to show to the world.
When you display the positive face of your Attitude Amulet to the world, you focus on what you really want from life. You have positive expectations of the day ahead, and you are open to connecting and interacting with others.
On the other hand, when you display the negative face of your Attitude Amulet to the world, you tend to focus on the problems in your life. You have negative expectations of the day ahead, and you close yourself off from connecting and interacting with others.
Although your Attitude Amulet is invisible to the naked eye, everyone you come into contact with during the day instantly knows which side of the amulet you have on display.
Another important aspect of your Attitude Amulet is that it is strongly magnetic.
When you display the positive face of your amulet to the world, it attracts people who have a positive attitude and repels people who have a negative attitude.
Conversely, when you have the negative face of your Attitude Amulet on display, it attracts people who have a negative attitude and repels people who have a positive attitude.
Let’s take a look at an example to see how this works in the real world.
Cathy’s Day – Take 1
Cathy opened her eyes with a groan and reached out and turned off her alarm clock with a slap. She dragged herself out of bed and was still half asleep as she had a shower.
The warm water helped her wake up properly and she proceeded to get ready for the day. Once she had dressed, tied up her hair and applied her make up, she paused and did a final check in the mirror.
Without thinking, she reached over, picked up her Attitude Amulet and placed it over her head, not noticing that the dark face of the amulet was facing the world.
In the car on the way to work, Cathy thought about all the problems she was currently dealing with. There were the issues at work with her manager, her brother’s financial mess, and the fact that her last date had been a complete disaster.
As she reviewed this litany of problems, she worked herself into a negative frame of mind and was not looking forward to the day ahead.
At work, Cathy caught the elevator to the 12th floor, and avoided making eye contact with anyone as she made her way to her cubicle.
She dumped her bag under her desk, switched on her computer and stared glumly at the pile of claim forms that she needed to process by the end of the day.
After checking her emails, Cathy decided she needed a coffee to kick start her day. On the way to the coffee machine she bumped into her friend Rachel, who said, “Hey Cath, the girls and I are just going to the cafeteria, do you want to come?”
Cathy just didn’t feel like company so she replied, “No, I better get stuck into my work. I’ll catch up with you later.”
At the coffee machine, Cathy met another of her workmates named Wendy.
“Another fun-filled day of claims forms ahead?” asked Wendy.
“Yep, can’t wait” replied Cathy sarcastically.
They picked up their coffee and talked about the latest ridiculous decision their manager had made as they made their way back to their desks.
Cathy then faced a long, tiresome day of processing claim forms before going home and zoning out in front of the television.
Cathy’s Day – Take 2
Cathy opened her eyes and reached out and turned off her alarm clock. She pulled herself out of bed and was still half asleep as she had a shower.
The warm water helped her wake up properly and she proceeded to get ready for the day. Once she had dressed, tied up her hair and applied her make up, she paused and did a final check in the mirror.
She reached over, picked up her Attitude Amulet and placed it over her head making sure that the positive face of the amulet was facing the world. She smiled at her reflection and headed out the door.
In the car on the way to work, Cathy focused on what she was going to do with the day ahead, and set herself a goal of completing all her claim forms by lunchtime so she could chat to her manager. She also wanted to organise to catch up with her brother, and investigate the ‘Meet at Dinner’ dating website her friend had told her about.
At work, Cathy caught the elevator up to the 12th floor, and smiled at several people as she made her way to her cubicle.
She slid her bag under her desk, flicked on her computer, looked down at her pile of claim forms waiting to be processed and said under her breath, “OK – You guys are going down!”
On the way to get a coffee, Cathy bumped into her friend Rachel, who said, “Hey Cath, the girls and I are just going to the cafeteria, do you want to come?”
“Sure thing” replied Cathy. She walked past her workmate Wendy with a nod, and joined Rachel and the others.
In the cafeteria, Rachel announced that she was pregnant and Cathy and the other girls were incredibly excited and happy for her.
After an exciting morning coffee, Cathy was in a great mood and ploughed through her work in record time.
She felt good about having been so productive and ended up having a fantastic day.
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As this example illustrates, each morning we each have the option to decide which face of our Attitude Amulet we are going to show to the world. This single decision has a huge impact on how our day unfolds and ultimately the kind of life we lead.
So today I want to encourage you to add a simple two-minute process to your morning routine. When you complete your final visual check in the mirror, imagine picking up your Attitude Amulet and placing it over your head.
Make the conscious decision to have the positive face of your amulet on show, and use this as a reminder to focus on what you really want from life, have positive expectations of the day ahead and be open to connecting and interacting with others.
Until Next Time,
Dr. Anthony
Dare To Dream